Welcome to the world of relationships and love!
We've been taught to be independent and to pursue our goals and dreams, both men and women. We value our own lives and our own sense of self, but sometimes we can go too far in the pursuit of independence without considering a relationship. We build lives that only we can fit into, and as a result, we end up feeling lonely and longing for someone to share it all with.
It's important to remember that there is a fine line between independence and loneliness. It's one thing to enjoy your own company, but it's another to exist on your own because you don't know how to include someone else. Men need to feel needed, and if women become too independent and act as if they don't want or need a man in their lives, it may end up pushing men away.
When you cloak ourselves in your independence, it is the equivalent of making an escape route. If a man believes that you don’t need him and might possibly bounce, or bounce him, if he makes one false move, he’s never going to feel secure. He needs to feel that he has a necessary place, especially if you are the more financially successful one in the relationship. It’s no myth that a woman who makes more money than her mate can be perceived as a threat to his masculinity. You have to walk that line gingerly and with great consideration.
Don’t be afraid or ashamed to play the damsel in distress on occasion and let your man take care of you. There’s nothing wrong with that. It’s not the equivalent of playing dumb or surrendering your sense of self. What it does mean is that once in a while, it’s okay to act as if you don’t know how to solve a problem and need to seek his help. It will bolster his confidence in himself and his standing with you. It will make him feel useful. Let down your guard. Let him in. When we don’t know how to allow others to assist us, it makes us less apt to grow in a relationship and jointly deal with the challenges that present
It's important to find the balance between being independent and making room for someone else in your lives. It's okay to want a partner and to make space for them in your lives. You deserve to be happy and fulfilled, and that includes having someone to share your lives with. So don't be afraid to open up and make room for love – it might just be the best thing that ever happened to you.